Popping the Question: Tips for Picking Your Bridesmaids and Groomsmen

Asking friends or family members to be your bridesmaids or groomsmen is an exciting moment in your wedding planning journey! These special people in your life play a big role in your wedding day. Because we know how much these people mean to you, we’re sharing some tips on how to make your bridesmaid or groomsmen proposal thoughtful and memorable! 

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Bride standing with three bridesmaids dressed in green on wedding day
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Deciding who is in the wedding party

When planning your wedding, sit down with your partner and make a wedding party list. Who do you want to stand by you on one of the most important days of your life? Do you want a big crew or do you want to things small with just a few select people? (There’s no wrong answer here!) 

Being in a wedding party is more than just celebrating, it also requires extra responsibilities, a bigger time commitment and can be expensive. Keeping these factors in mind can also make your decision making process easier.

Personalize your proposal with the perfect bridesmaid gift or groomsmen gift

To make the proposal truly special, think about what makes each of your friends unique and incorporate that into the ask. For example, if your friend loves coffee, you could plan a coffee date and present them with a customized coffee mug with their name on it, along with a letter asking them to be your bridesmaid. If your friend likes to golf, coordinate an afternoon on the green and surprise them with golf balls or tees. The more personal and thoughtful the proposal, the more memorable it will be.

If you’re sending something in the mail you could try to set up a FaceTime/Zoom date together to see them open it!

Not sure where to start? We’ve made gift giving easy with our Gift Guide! 

Be honest about your expectations

While it is important to make the bridesmaid or groomsmen proposal a special and memorable moment, it is equally important to be clear and honest about your expectations. This includes discussing important details such as the cost of the bridesmaid dress or formalwear and any related expenses, like traveling or organizing the bachelor/bachelorette parties. You can also share the time commitment involved in being a part of the wedding party, and any specific duties they will be expected to perform. By being upfront about your expectations, you can ensure that your friends are comfortable and able to commit to being a part of your wedding day. 

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Express your gratitude

Most importantly, make sure to express your gratitude and appreciation for your wedding party’s love and support. Whether it’s through a heartfelt letter or a small gift, acknowledging their role in your wedding and your life will make the proposal even more special and memorable.

In conclusion, asking friends to be your in your wedding party is a significant moment in your wedding planning journey and should be approached with thoughtfulness and sensitivity. By considering the right time and place, personalizing your proposal, being honest about your expectations, and expressing your gratitude, you can ensure that your proposal is a memorable and meaningful experience for everyone involved.

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